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Do you feel as if every status update you post on Facebook goes unnoticed?

Forget about a business page that you run getting no Facebook comments, but your personal page gets no love either.

If you feel like these two statements are speaking directly at you, then my tip for today is going to help you get more Facebook comments.  Let’s forget likes and shares for this post, alright?


Why Aren’t My Friends Leaving Me Facebook Comments?

Chances are many of your “Facebook friends” are acquaintances from high school. However, I’m sure many of those friends you still talk with in day to day life.

Time and time again, nobody comments on what you have to say and it can become frustrating.  You feel like you’re talking to yourself and that’s annoying, right?

As I like to put it, Facebook tends to bring out the “crazy” in most people.  Just see my post about your Facebook soap box to get a clear idea of what I’m talking about.

Click to tweet the post I just referenced.


Can I get More Facebook Comments Again, Ever?

The simplest way to correct what you’re currently doing on Facebook and turn it into a positive is to leave more to be desired!

Don’t feel like you’re required to post everyday.  Otherwise you’re that person who never shuts up.

I always receive comments on my personal page when I share something because I rarely post.  Those that share less frequently ignites curiosity from their friends and they want to engage with whatever it is you’re up to.

The person who always has something to share, you’ll notice people tend to ignore them.  This same principal can be applied to a company Facebook page.  If you’re a business and you’re always pushing to your audience, it looks like spam.


Isn’t This An Obvious Tip?

No.  It’s not.  Most people outside of social media don’t realize that they talk too much unless they’re told, so this tip is for individuals and businesses to take note of if you want your “friends” to interact with you more.  Those Facebook comments will come if they don’t hear from you as often because then you’re more “desirable.”

If you disagree with me, I’d like to hear your counter argument in the comments and be sure to subscribe as I always try to approach my posts from a different perspective than the average person.



  • VigTheGeek

    I disagree. I post nearly nonstop, whether it’s a status, link, photo, etc. Sometimes they are my own, sometimes they are shares. I cover a wide array of topics and moods as well. I share deep, personal stuff as well as jokes, funny photos, random daily tidbits or anything else. If I have a thought, I tend to post it. I get likes and comments on all of them. Some more than others of course, and there are some things that just do go unnoticed. However, looking through my feed, it’s clear that my engagement is up and continues to grow. I never leave them wanting more because I want to get all of my content out as quickly as possible because there is always more right behind it. That is the opposite of your plan and it works amazingly well. Why the difference?

    You are giving out a tip for what works on Facebook. You cannot answer that question. The trick is to find out what works (for you) on Facebook. And by “you” I mean the combination of the user and their audience. My girlfriend is similar to me, but if she did what I do she wouldn’t have the engagement because her core audience is very different than mine. So in your own ecosystem within the ecosystem you design a strategy for what works. There is absolutely NO blanket statement for success.

    Why does mine work for me? Because I talk about EVERYTHING. I pull the “something for everyone” approach. No matter what I say, there’s SOMEONE on my list that’ll appreciate it. I’ve also paid careful attention to times of the day that people pay attention and the types of people that pay attention at each time. I know my funny picture stream gets no love after about 7pm. Personal blog posts are no good before 10am. Tech reviews get lots of attention between 10am and 2pm. So rather than being passive aggressive and giving people a little taste on a hook and trying to reel them in, I give them what they want when they want it. They are your audience and you want to engage them; then do it – on their terms, not yours.

    Know your audience, engage your audience, cater to your audience and they will shower you in what you want most, acknowledgements. That is, after all, what it’s all about. Why do telemarketers call at dinner time? Because they want something from you and do it at the time when you’re most likely to be home and near a phone (and busy enough to either hang up or blindly agree). Calling you at 4am makes no sense. Do market and demographic research on how to reach your audience. Do NOT trick them into following you to get the full story.

    • You make a very good point, Jay. I always appreciate your opposite look on a variety of topics. It’s good to see ways that other people are making sites like Facebook work for them.

      It’s good that you post a variety of topics because you’re able to appeal to a larger sample size of people. I probably should have made clearer that this tip was for those posting the same type of updates every single day, if that makes sense? However, it lead to a good discussion by writing it the way I did.

      As you said, it depends on the person and I do agree there, but I still believe that there are many users out there driving away potential engagement by not sharing things that interest people and are to bland with their topics.

      • VigTheGeek

        You said you still believe that there are still people that are driving away parts of their audience because they aren’t sharing things that are of interest. However, your tip was to share only portions of things to leave people wanting more. How do you generate interest without the full picture? Let me give you a single puzzle piece and make you tell me if you like the picture and want to build it. Some people will follow those breadcrumbs, but most won’t. In a web culture of all the information you could possibly want and the ability to get it immediately, giving part of your story will shoot you in the foot.

        Now you delineated between someone like me who posts a variety of topics and someone who is more laser focused on a particular topic. That may be true for my personal Facebook account, but let’s look at a fan page. I know you weren’t talking about businesses, but follow me. On JayVig Photography, I make it a point to not just post my professional photos. I’ll talk about industry news, new gear, techniques or other cool things. I vary the types of photos I post as well. More of that “something for everyone” approach. But you were talking about individual people and personal brands rather than a business. Fine. Truthfully, I will unfollow any single brand that only talks about the brand. That’s the magic of social media. We can personalize brands again. Remember the thank you economy? Big box stores that are faceless machines is not where it’s at. Social media humanizes brands again. Moving back to the one-dimensional view of product, product, product or service, service, service or the idea that we can only talk about one topic is defeating the purpose of this profound connection we’ve created with the social movement. I don’t want one-dimensional friends or brands in my life – not in 2012. 

        I don’t want my brands to take an amazing medium and limit engagement by giving me part of the story and making me have to chase down the rest of what I want to know.

        At the end of the day, more is better. Content is king and consistent content that is the full story and not repetitive will provide value to people and that audience will grow, both because people are telling other people and because it’s something worth seeing in the first place. 

        I think the advice above will actually help shrink an audience. It’s counter intuitive to how we tell stories, counter intuitive to how social media is designed and counter intuitive to the growing trend of share MORE. 

        • Like you mentioned, this post was geared more towards personal accounts rather than businesses because I have to cater to individuals here as well.

          Although, I don’t think this tip will hinder audience participation. I think you might be misinterpreting what I was saying. I used you as an example because you’re not making everything about YOU. I see many people doing that and to a point where it’s detracting people from commenting on their post because it wasn’t encouraging feedback.

          Also, when I say leave more to be desired, I mean leave time in between posts so that when you show up in someone’s news feed, they’ll be more likely to pay attention because your name isn’t always appearing. People like when they can relate to something, that’s why I believe your approach works, however, most people aren’t using it in that way. That’s the point I was trying to make, but we can agree to disagree.